Visualization - How to

 

Bob Proctor SEE YOURSELF - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/BktjT122Eqk

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Z9Z20Qp8B80

Body Relax - Visualize in mind see themself how they want to be - write it out the picture in mind - I am so happy now that I see myself ....and write it out

Thoughts - How you want to be

Action - see and taking action to become , hold that picture for 20 sec

Feeling  - Happy, excited

https://www.youtube.com/@ScottHaugOfficial

Relax - Repetition of thoughts with good feeling

Appearamce - 20 idea method Brain tracy

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/mX9TernX4xQ

\https://www.youtube.com/shorts/clS35_bY4aw

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/dIZs657PPzA

This Affirmation Secret Works Every time! (Effortless Manifestation)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-tpWciQ4zvs

How to Talk to Yourself Correctly: To Manifest FAST

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcVBSg7STeU

How to Manifest your Masculine Self

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jzfg4qn1lo

CONFIDENCE - Jim Rohn Personal Development - Powerful Motivational Speech 2023

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEDh9PTxsag

Concentration Exercise

 

1. 4 Roads of Thought

1. Class or Category

2.  Part (Tree - Leaves, Root)

3. Quality (Colour, speed)

4. Proximity

2. use simple objects, such as a coin, a key, or a pen 

set timer 2 min, observe the object and then write about the object

3. Mind Cooking - 5 min timer

4. Mind Walking - 5 min timer

Swami Satchidananda - Teachings

 

The Body Reflects the Mind

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQUeZXCLzFc

You Are Not Your Mind

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5R0x_6fwArk

Remedies for Negative Thinking

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziIpuRd3o94

How to Gain Mastery Over the Mind

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uGiwnEkf8-k

How to Develop Willpower

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfILv8TylBE

How To Heal Yourself 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zDjIXYseu2I

How to Deal with Difficult People

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M41G3LpbGtg

Mastering the Mind By Re-training the Senses

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=muzSqKTKdHk

Mastering Your Emotions

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZm9o357ac0

 

3 Habits That Will Make You Mentally Strong

#2: Avoid unnecessary mental time travel

Photo by Rene Asmussen

Here’s how I think about mental strength:

Mental strength is the ability to control your mind instead of being controlled by it.

For example:

• Instead of getting sucked into spirals of self-criticism and shame, mental strength is what allows you to redirect your attention and thinking somewhere else less destructive — like that conversation you’re having with your son or the report you’re supposed to be drafting.
• Rather than impulsively responding to your spouse’s sarcastic comment with a witty jab of your own, you are able to resist the impulse and either say nothing or mention assertively that you don’t appreciate the sarcasm.

Now, obviously there are aspects of your mind that you can’t control… Whether a specific memory pops into mind, for example. Or whether you feel afraid of almost getting run over by a car.

So becoming mentally strong doesn’t mean you are able to exert complete control over everything that goes on between your ears.

Mental strength means understanding which parts of your mind you can control and being able to do it well when it matters.

For example:

• You may not be able to control whether a random worry pops into your mind. But you can control whether you keep worrying about it.
• You can’t control whether someone says something insensitive to you. But you can control what you say in response.

One of the many benefits of becoming more mentally strong is that it’s one of the best ways to improve how you feel emotionally….

• The only way to lower your anxiety in the long term is to learn how to control your mental patterns of worry.
• You’ll only be able to get a handle on your anger issues when you learn to control your mental patterns of rumination.
• It’s hard to break the cycle of low self-esteem without learning how to manage your mental pattern of self-criticism.

In other words…

If you want to be emotionally resilient, you must train yourself to be mentally strong.

And like any kind of training, building mental strength requires a commitment to good habits and practices over time.

Here are three small habits that will slowly but surely improve your mental strength and emotional resilience.

1. Be honest about how you feel emotionally

This habit is so simple that it’s incredibly easy to miss.

Now, you might be thinking to yourself:

I think I’m pretty honest about how I feel…

Maybe. But I’d be willing to bet you’re not quite as honest about your emotions — especially the really difficult ones — as you’d like to believe.

For example: Suppose you had a big argument with your spouse last night. And as you get into work this morning, one of your coworkers asks you how you’re doing. And without giving it a second thought you immediately say I’m good. How you doing?

This is a textbook case of being emotionally dishonest.

Now, you’re probably thinking to yourself:

I mean, I know that I’m not feeling great this morning because of that argument. I just didn’t want to say anything about it since it’s not really appropriate to talk about personal issues at work.

First of all, Do you really know how you feel?

I mean, on some vague, superficial level I’m sure you know that you feel upset. But what emotions specifically are you feeling?

• For example, are you feeling angry? If so, what type of anger — frustrated, mad, irritated?
• Or maybe you’re feeling hurt… But what type of hurt? Do you feel sad or disappointed? Regretful or ashamed?
• Or maybe — and much more likely — you’re feeling some combination of emotions… Mostly disappointed, but also a bit mad and anxious as well.

Unless you squeaked in a therapy session before work this morning — or did some serious self-reflective journaling before bed — I doubt you actually understand how you’re feeling with any kind of granularity.

My second point is that even if it’s inappropriate to go into detail about your marital problems at work, that doesn’t mean you can’t talk about how you feel at all.

For example, in response to your coworker’s question, you could have said:

• I’m doing okay but I had kind of a stressful day yesterday.
• Not too bad but Jesse and I had a tough conversation last night and I’m still trying to make sense of it all.

Here’s why this matters…

• Even though you may know intellectually that you’re not feeling okay, by avoiding them, you’re teaching your brain that those feelings are bad or dangerous (because when we run away from something our brain understandably intuits that it might be dangerous).
• And if you’re in the habit of avoiding talking about how you feel, you’re really sending your brain a strong message that painful feelings are things to be avoided and feared.
• And when you train your brain to fear your own feelings, that is a set-up for emotional fragility and pain.

Luckily, you can teach your brain the opposite message — that, however painful, difficult emotions aren’t dangerous — by simply being willing to talk about them honestly, both to yourself and others.

This doesn’t mean you have to go around pouring out your heart to every coworker and Starbucks barista you encounter throughout the day. But taking 3 seconds to acknowledge your emotions honestly, rather than avoiding them, is a powerful way to build your mental strength and emotional resilience over time.

2. Resist unnecessary mental time travel

The majority of emotional suffering is a direct result of too much mental time travel.

Mental time travel… What’s that?

Mental time travel is the amazing ability we humans have to think about the future with our imagination or relive events from the past out of memory.

And everything from building bridges and rocket ships to getting everything you need at the grocery store depends in large part on your ability to mentally travel through time — imagining possibilities in the future and recalling memories from the past.

But like any tool, mental time travel can be used well or poorly.

Think about it…

• A welding torch is a really good tool for heating things up, but you probably wouldn’t want to use one to make hot cocoa.
• Toenail clippers are really good for cutting toe nails, but you probably would want to use one to split firewood.

Whether you’re trying to make hot cocoa, trim your toenails, or lower your anxiety, everything depends on using the right tool for the job.

Unfortunately, it’s easy to make the mistake of using a tool that’s really effective in many situations in every situation…

• No matter how incredible you may be at using Excel to create everything from financial models to recipe catalogs, if you tried to write a novel in Excel you’d be setting yourself up for a lot of unnecessary stress and frustration.
• Similarly, no matter how good you are at imagining possible problems in the future in your job as a risk-assessor for your company, lying in bed at 2:00 am imagining all the potential downsides of not sleeping well tonight is not a particularly good tool for lowering your anxiety and falling asleep.

So despite all your success using mental time travel well in certain aspects of your life, you can’t assume that it will help you in all areas of your life.

A few examples:

• Anxiety. The vast majority of anxiety comes from unhelpful thinking about the future. And just because imagining negative possibilities in the future is helpful sometimes, doesn’t mean it can’t be utterly unhelpful in others. Which means the key to lowering your anxiety is being smarter about when you choose to use your tool of imagining problems in the future.
• Shame. Many instances of depression and low self-esteem are driven by powerful mental habits of self-criticism and self-judgment. In some situations, and to some degree, reflecting on past mistakes, for example, can be very helpful and productive, if a little painful. But that same mental habit can be horribly destructive if you let it run wild.
• Aggression and resentment. Just like reflecting on your own mistakes can easily turn into destructive self-criticism, ruminating on other people’s mistakes and shortcomings can quickly lead to excessive levels of anger, resentment, aggression, and conflict.

As an antidote to destructive mental time travel, cultivate the ability to hold your attention in the present moment:

• When you’re stopped at a stoplight for 30 seconds, just keep your attention on the music of the radio instead of replaying that argument with your partner last night.
• When you’re going for a run, practice keeping your attention on what it’s like to run and be outdoors instead of worrying about how badly your work presentation might go tomorrow.

Remember: The ability to mentally time travel is a tool. Use it mindfully, not mindlessly.

3. Distinguish wants vs values

A big part of mental strength is the ability to resist unhelpful impulses:

• You’ve committed to working out five days a week, but this evening, you’re feeling lazy and want to just chill on the couch and watch TV.
• A coworker says something rude and you feel the impulse to say something snarky and mean right back at them.
• You have an uncomfortable conversation you need to have with your spouse, but you’re afraid of how they’ll take it and feel like putting it off.

All too often, our best intentions get sabotaged by our own minds in the form of impulsive reactions, cravings, fears, and the like.

But the trick is that it’s difficult to simply resist an unhelpful impulse…

For example: If you’re feeling the impulse to eat a second serving of dessert, simply repeating to yourself don’t eat the dessert, don’t eat the dessert, don’t eat the dessert probably isn’t going to be all that helpful — largely because your focus is still on the craving and the dessert!

The better way to resist unhealthy impulses and cravings is to shift your focus onto your values.

Instead of trying to force yourself to not eat the second serving, what if you put your focus onto why you want to resist that impulse in the first place?

• What if you took out a pen and paper and listed 3 good reasons why you don’t want to eat the dessert?
• In other words, why do you value not eating a second serving of dessert? Surely not for its own sake…
• Instead, you probably want to resist that craving because you value losing weight and improving your health, or looking good at the beach this summer, or being supportive of your spouse who’s trying to lose weight.
• Then, once you’ve figured out at least one good value behind your desire to resist the dessert, clarify it — what are the benefits of losing weight and getting healthy? What will you be able to do when you’re slimmer and at a healthy weight? Imagine how it will feel to be able to play basketball with the guys again?

Here’s the thing:

Instead of trying to resist your unhealthy impulses, outcompete them with your values.

Unhealthy impulses have some kind of motivational pull. Whether it’s the craving for chocolate or the ego-boost that would come with criticizing someone, there’s always some reason why we’re pulled in unhealthy directions.

But you can outcompete the motivational pull of momentary impulses by identifying and clarifying your values — what you really want, your ideals.

At the end of the day, true values and ideals contain much more motivating force than momentary whims or impulses. The problem is we rarely take the time to remind ourselves of our values and make them specific enough to feel compelling.

A surprising amount of mental strength comes from getting in the habit of distinguishing momentary wants from genuine values. And the more you practice it, the easier you’ll find it to resist the things you don’t want and take action on the things you do.

All You Need to Know

Mental strength is the ability to control your mind instead of being controlled by it. And it’s a skill anyone can improve with practice.

Here are three small habits that will help you build mental strength:

1. Be honest about how you feel emotionally
2. Resist unnecessary mental time travel
3. Distinguish wants vs values

https://medium.com/@nickwignall/3-habits-that-will-make-you-mentally-strong-4f7e95419a88

Personal Development - Productivity

Self Confidence - 

Mental workout - 

1. Centering Breath: Breath in for 6 seconds, hold for 2, breath out for 7 seconds. (6-2-7) or (4-2-5)
2. Identity Statement: Repeat in your head your identity statement (this is very much like a personal mantra). Come up with 2-3 sentences that describe exactly what and who you want to be—make certain to say it as if it has already occurred. For example my identity statement is, “I out work the competition everyday, I am the most effective performance coach in the country. I experience true love as a husband and father”. 
   
   I don't waste time. I am hardworking person. I am skilled GenAI Devops Engineer and leader
   I'm confident healthy strong. I improve my competance with 100% focus and intensity I am the most skilled Devops/Gen AI Engineer and Leader"
   
   I'm confident happy focused. I improve my competance (skills) everyday I am the most skilled Devops/Gen AI Engineer and leader
   
   
3. Personal Highlight Reel (Vision and Integrity): Take 60 seconds total to visualize success. 
   --> In the first 30 seconds create a visual of how you want your life to be 5 years from now. Be specific and include the most important personal and professional aspects. (earning 30 L /yr, highly skilled, work life balance, taking care of two kids and family well)
   --> Then take another 30 seconds to visualize how you want your upcoming day to go. See a few important successes that will propel you to be on track for exactly where you want to be in 5 years. (working well with focus and intensity, without wasting time [in entertainment, facebook,youtube] )
4. Identity Statement: Repeat to yourself your personal mantra (same as step 2). (I am focused and capable. I am the most skilled devops engineer and leader.)
5. Centering Breath: Take another deep breath just as you did in step 1
   
   https://inspiyr.com/become-the-person-you-want-to-be/

          https://www.speakers.ca/2014/07/the-secret-advantage-is-loving-your-job/

          https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2019/01/28/are-you-mentally-prepared-for-2019/?sh=4c4d017a7d78

          https://paminy.com/book-summary-10-minute-toughness/

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Self Image -  Create Identity Statement (Example: I am confident I am healthy and I am strong. I am the most skilled devops engineer and leader)

Positive Self talk -  Every people is different . We may come across different kinds of people some complicate things, some  angry, some arrogant, some childish, some silly, I won't get affected by their words or actions 

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I use my time well

I use my time to improve my skills

I use my time to become better

1. 1-10 how well are you using your time

2. 1-10 how well are you taking effort on improving ur skills

3. 1-10 how much parents believe you and small guys respect you

Think of goal or wish

--> need to earn 30 l / per year (or)  using the time well

Think of goal or wish with more details

--> need to earn 30 lakh per year,  utilizing the time well doing productive/responsible work , improving skills 

Think of goal or wish as already happened

--> I am happy now,  i earn 30 Lakh  / year

 that without wasting (distraction or entertainment) i am using the time well

https://nevilleforkids.medium.com/three-magic-steps-to-create-your-reality-manifesting-for-kids-c0a95fa02cf

How to utilize the Miracle of Mind magic  . . .

Select the secret mental power which you desire most right now and reread and repractice it. Select two or three if you can't decide on one. (Reread any of the others whenever you need them.) When you practice any of them, be keenly aware of how it alters your physiological language.

You will feel like a person who could easily achieve your goal, dream, or wish. Always imagine yourself as becoming him (or her) and then note exactly how you feel! Imitate everything about them when you do, so you no longer feel like yourself, but wholly like him or her! That's when you will think like them, when your physiological language will speak like his or hers, and when the particular secret mental power which they would use to achieve a goal, dream, or wish like yours will become yours, too!

You will then possess the miracle of mind magic!

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Who are you

what do you want to be 

What could you do about it

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In addition to physical skills, mental practice can probably also be used to help train your emotional responses. Have you ever had a bad encounter while working, got angry, and said something that you later regretted? Take a moment to recreate that moment in your head. In real time, recreate the conversation. Now feel the physical changes that accompany your anger. Are your muscles tight? Your heart racing? Try to experience everything about the scene, right down to the smells in the room. Now that you can recognize the anger developing, picture yourself responding as you wish you had acted rather than as you actually did. Envision yourself taking a few deep breaths. Try to see things from the other side. Is this person really a jerk, or are they just scared or tired or struggling with their divorce? Envision yourself pausing to breath and think before you respond. If you mentally rehearse both the sensations of anger and your planned response, you are much more likely to recognize when you are becoming angry, and respond in a way that that fits with your professional ideals.

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Productivity requires skill, strategy, and focused effort.

If you’re working with those three essential elements together, consistently, you’re maximizing your productivity. It’s like a recipe for creating exactly what you want to create and doing it with excellence.

So ask yourself, “Am I working with skill, strategy, and focused effort on a consistent basis?”

If you’re answer is no, then evaluate the areas where you need the most help and start finding some new ways of doing business.

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By disciplining yourself to concentrate single-mindedly on the most important thing you could possibly be doing, and then by completing that task, you increase the quantity, quality and value of your output substantially. You can have all the talent and skill in the world. But if you cannot discipline yourself single-mindedly to complete your most important task, you will always have to work for someone else. You will always have to be supervised by someone who can make sure that you do what you should do, when you should do it. The good news is that, every time you complete a major task, you experience a surge of energy, enthusiasm and self-esteem. You feel terrific about yourself. You feel happy and elated. You feel like a winner. The more important the task, and the more disciplined you are in completing the task, the better you feel about yourself when you have finished.

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Health -> Appearance (good looking) -> Our Confidence increases with good dressing and fitness

Focus -> If we do Productive Work ->  Our Confidence increases as we gain experience with work

Knowledge ->  Daily Learning -> We get Confidence if we continuously gain knowledge

Training -> Daily Practice -> More practice, more we become skillful we get more Confidence

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Knowledge and Practice  = Self Condidence = 

Focus - Dedication - Workhard = Success

Not to do :

Negative Self talk, Over Compliment others, 

 Lowering Your Standards, 

Comparing Yourself to Others

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Time Mgmt

1. Plan the day before (write it down) 3 Most Important 1 Must

2.  Take 10 min of your time to declutter the workspace

3. When - Then Technique (When you have 5-10 min practice a sysops practice question)

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Victim mindset questions begin with “why.” When we ask a victim question, get a victim answer. For example, “Why does this person treat me this way?” “Because you are this and this.” Or “Why am I unable to do this?” “Because of this and this.” A victim question will give you an excuse as your answer 👎

Victor questions begin with “how” and "who" or “what!” Ask a victor question, get the answer that sets you free ✨

Whats ONE Thing you can do or do differently to make this better

Instead of Yelling “I Deserve Better,” Say “I Can Be Better”

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Don't beat yourself, Don't self critisize

its okay to be emotional

its okay to not know everything

its okay to fail

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Growth Mindset

Daily Self Reflection Quesitons

RSF - Solution Focus

“Talking about your problems will lead to more problems, not solutions. If you want solutions, start thinking and talking about your solutions”. 

The number one reason mental toughness is so difficult is the tendency to become problem-centric thoughts (PCT). PCT is the exact opposite of Relentless Solution Focused (RSF). RSF is rare as most people are PCTs. It is more natural to think and focus on mistakes, the past, barriers, and what we don’t have instead of what we do have. It’s easier to think about problems such as not having enough money, success, not fast enough, strong enough, etc., than to acknowledge good fortune and abundance. 

What does it really mean to be solution focused? Being solution focused means keeping your thoughts centered on what you want from life and what it takes to achieve what you want, as opposed to allowing thoughts of self-doubt and concern to occupy the mind. The difference between a solution focus and a relentless solution focus is how often you commit to replacing negative thinking with solutions. 

Many sports psychologists feel that most people achieve solution-focused thoughts about 40% of the time. Individuals with a relentless solution focus replace 100% of undesirable thinking with thoughts emphasizing solutions. 

Got a challenge in your life, on the field, in the classroom? ALWAYS have a solution on the board. Ask yourself “What is the one thing I can do that could make this better?” One thing! Not 72 or 483. Just one thing! 

Don’t allow yourself to say “I don’t know what to do”. Come up with an answer to that question. It doesn’t have to be perfect – just one thing that moves you in the right direction.

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The mentally strong person will never give up their dreams irrespective of what situation they are facing The emotionally strong person will able to control their emotions and they could able to adapt to the situation and adjust to the situation and they make the situation to accomplish their task. The mentally and emotionally strong person is much greater person than rich person. 

10 methods to become mentally and emotionally strong: 

1: Don't blame yourself ( we are born alone and die alone so don't blame yourself and live the way you need) 

2: Don't waste time ( don't use social media too much. If it doesn't give money don't do it. Di your passion. Make passion to profession) 

3: Wake up early morning be a early bird( wake up before sunrise ️) 

4: Make yourself calm ( being calm helps to solving the problem. Focused mind is the most powerful weapon) 

5: Change yourself ( you can change the habits, priorities and schedule. Think carefully about your life and change your life) 

6:Speak to yourself ( be in a calm situation and talk to yourself and analyse your strength and weakness and happiness and make the changes) 

7:Work hard ( there is no alternative for hard work) 

8:Avoid over thinking ( over thinking makes mentally and emotionally weak) 

9:Go with yourself ( cannot change the situation but change the habits) 

10:Meditation ( it make you calm and focused)

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ASK YOURSELF 3 QUESTIONS:

1. 1-10 how RELENTLESS are you?

2. 1-10 how CONSISTENT are you?

3. 1-10 how GRATEFUL are you?

BONUS QUESTION:

What is 1 thing you can do to become more RELENTLESS?

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• Getting up at 5 or 6 AM
• Walking 30 minutes and listen to your 5 favorite songs 
• Meditate 5 minutes
• Gratitude 5 minutes
• Plan your day 10 minutes

Make an effort to answer the following questions each night before sleeping and write them in your journal:

 

• What am I grateful for? (Write 3 -5 points)
• What 3 things have made me happy today?
• What 3 things did I do particularly well today?
• How could I have made today even better?
• What is my most important goal for tomorrow?

 

Do this every day for a month and observe the changes that take place!

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https://resources.finalsite.net/images/v1611608788/stisdnet/iziysmwbmx76wri7eeiv/10tipsforboostingyourselfesteem.pdf

https://www.mmsnorcal.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Raising-Awareness-_-A-Workbook.pdf

Jason Selk - Links

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2014/07/10/laziness-isnt-a-personality-flaw-its-just-a-habit/?sh=35e796e53016

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2013/07/10/mental-toughness-helped-nik-wallenda-7-ways-it-can-help-you-too/?sh=fa3b3ba481d6

https://education-new-frontiers.com/2022/02/24/time-management-secrets-for-the-non-stop-professional/

https://www.speakers.ca/2014/07/the-secret-advantage-is-loving-your-job/

inc.com/jason-selk/how-to-perform-under-pressure-win-your-world-series-big-myth.html

https://www.inc.com/jason-selk/3-steps-to-big-mo.html

 

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https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2019/12/11/1-thing-to-always-do-when-evaluating/?sh=35706f0718c6

 https://www.careercliff.com/list-short-term-goals-examples/

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https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/what-executive-toughness-steve-kayser

https://maximumlawyer.com/drjasonselk303/

https://community.thriveglobal.com/how-to-retrain-your-brain-to-overcome-stress/

http://www.experimentswithsuccess.com/2014/11/self-confidence-number-one-variable-impacting-performance/

https://www.youngupstarts.com/2016/01/11/7-tips-to-beat-the-obstacles-in-your-head-and-create-winning-habits/

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Jason Selk - 

Jason Selk - No Excuse - No Complaining

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2015/02/11/what-would-wooden-do-the-no-complaining-challenge/?

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2015/08/26/how-top-performers-overcome-the-3-performance-viruses/

https://www.inc.com/jason-selk/if-only-breaking-out-of-the-excuse-mindset.html

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2014/11/12/how-to-close-the-gap-between-what-you-want-and-what-you-have/

 https://www.inc.com/jason-selk/how-to-screw-up-and-still-impress-people-the-phrase-you-must-start-using.html

 https://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/careers/leadership-lab/legitimate-excuse-for-leaders-that-just-doesnt-cut-it/article23661024/

 https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2014/06/02/how-venting-influences-self-improvement-4-strategies-for-success/?sh=7b155a502de4

 

overcoming Laziness

https://bigthink.com/personal-growth/losing-your-competitive-edge-how-mental-laziness-can-hurt-you/

"I am sorry for (insert mistake). There is no excuse, and I will make sure it doesn't happen again." 

Example : I'm sorry I was late and couldn't pick up the supplies. No excuses.

https://www.facebook.com/jasonselk/videos/viable-excuses-are-tricky-because-there-is-always-some-truth-to-them-however-the/2942852539369576/

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/notes-from-organize-tomorrow-today-8-ways-retrain-tom-tj-tongjie-

 https://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:UzE7o6KJXZIJ:https://dokumen.pub/the-mental-toughness-advantage-a-5-step-program-to-boost-your-resilience-and-reach-your-goals-unabridged-9781982648763-1982648767.html&cd=63&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=in

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Set Goals Developing attainable goals is critical for managing your mental toughness. When you are writing your mission statement, make sure that you are considering what your goals are. But while setting goals is easy, achieving them can be a very different story. The most important question to ask before setting any goal is “Why?” Specifically, why is this goal vital to me? When there is a clear connection with your why, the how will follow. Your why is the emotional connection or the bond that you form with your goal. Setting goals will also make you mentally tough

TO ________ SO THAT ______________

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Accountability (Doing what needs to be done) (3 MI 1 Must, Product Goal Process Goal)

Decide what's important, and without excuse, wake up every day and take action

https://www.youngupstarts.com/2016/01/11/7-tips-to-beat-the-obstacles-in-your-head-and-create-winning-habits/

No Excuse - https://lifehacker.com/develop-stronger-accountability-by-refusing-to-use-via-1671447404

What excuse do you find yourself using over and over? 

1 time, 5 min rest

https://www.mentaltoughness.partners/process-goals-best-goals/

Focus (Performance Statement, Identity Statement, V-Flood )

 

Optimism (Self Confidence - How you talk to yourself - 3 Done Well, Vision of Self Image, RSF)

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/ways-to-become-a-more-optimistic-person

https://www.youngupstarts.com/2020/12/08/go-from-victim-to-victor-with-relentless-solution-focus/

https://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/7-ways-to-be-more-optimistic/

Train Yourself to Be an Optimist: 4 Steps | Inc.com

https://coachingclipboard.org/2015/08/28/cant-have-a-million-dollar-dream-with-a-minimum-wage-work-ethic/ (No Excuse , Things in our control, RSF)

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2012/11/06/keeping-your-business-optimistic-in-an-iffy-economy/?sh=5a0ef62179af

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RSF - Jason Selk

https://www.mikeshadybowling.com/manage.numo?module=blog&component=display&show=post&id=207

 

https://www.muscleandfitness.com/workouts/workout-tips/5-brain-training-tips-mental-toughness/

 

https://www.architechsports.com/blog/2021/10/20/problem-focused-or-solution-focused-your-choice

 

Performance Statement

https://dailyathlete.ca/performancestatement/

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"I am sorry for (insert mistake). There is no excuse, and I will make sure it doesn't happen again." 

Example : I'm sorry I was late and couldn't pick up the supplies. No excuses.

https://www.facebook.com/jasonselk/videos/viable-excuses-are-tricky-because-there-is-always-some-truth-to-them-however-the/2942852539369576/

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Jason Selk - No Excuse - No Complaining

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2015/02/11/what-would-wooden-do-the-no-complaining-challenge/?

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2015/08/26/how-top-performers-overcome-the-3-performance-viruses/

https://www.inc.com/jason-selk/if-only-breaking-out-of-the-excuse-mindset.html

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2014/11/12/how-to-close-the-gap-between-what-you-want-and-what-you-have/

 

https://www.inc.com/jason-selk/how-to-screw-up-and-still-impress-people-the-phrase-you-must-start-using.html

No -Excuse

https://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/careers/leadership-lab/legitimate-excuse-for-leaders-that-just-doesnt-cut-it/article23661024/

 

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2014/06/02/how-venting-influences-self-improvement-4-strategies-for-success/?sh=7b155a502de4

Attack Mentality

inc.com/jason-selk/start-strong-attack-early.html

overcoming Laziness

https://bigthink.com/personal-growth/losing-your-competitive-edge-how-mental-laziness-can-hurt-you/

 

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2020/02/06/thriving-on-adversity-like-the-kansas-city-chiefs/?sh=234eec204731

 

1. https://inspiyr.com/become-the-person-you-want-to-be/

https://www.speakers.ca/2014/07/the-secret-advantage-is-loving-your-job/

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2019/01/28/are-you-mentally-prepared-for-2019/?sh=4c4d017a7d78

 

https://paminy.com/book-summary-10-minute-toughness/

http://www.experimentswithsuccess.com/2014/11/self-confidence-number-one-variable-impacting-performance/

 

https://www.inc.com/jason-selk/be-nice-to-yourselfyour-competition-wont-stand-a-chance.html

RSF - 

http://www.experimentswithsuccess.com/2014/11/self-confidence-number-one-variable-impacting-performance/

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Identity statement

https://education-new-frontiers.com/2022/02/24/time-management-secrets-for-the-non-stop-professional/

https://www.speakers.ca/2014/07/the-secret-advantage-is-loving-your-job/

https://rlevinelson.medium.com/the-identity-statement-6e0e44cc500e

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There is an old saying that states, “Be prepared for the worst. Plan for the best.” When the possibility of trouble arises, allow yourself 60 seconds to think through the worst that could happen. Take another 60 seconds to figure out what you will do to get through the worst if it occurs. After doing so, realize you are prepared.

Now the trick becomes to focus on how you want things to go. Force all thoughts moving forward onto the potential positive outcome and result. If trouble shows up, you will deal with it; otherwise, enjoy life’s blessings.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2020/02/06/thriving-on-adversity-like-the-kansas-city-chiefs/?sh=234eec204731

 

https://www.speakers.ca/2014/11/the-two-minute-secret-to-mental-toughness/

https://www.speakers.ca/2013/12/adopting-a-winning-mentality/

https://www.speakers.ca/2017/09/play-to-win-or-you-will-lose-the-5-minute-winning-mindset/

https://www.speakers.ca/2017/07/4-techniques-for-winning-the-summertime-fight-thru/

inc.com/jason-selk/how-to-perform-under-pressure-win-your-world-series-big-myth.html

https://www.inc.com/jason-selk/3-steps-to-big-mo.html

 

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https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2019/12/11/1-thing-to-always-do-when-evaluating/?sh=35706f0718c6

 

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https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/what-executive-toughness-steve-kayser

https://maximumlawyer.com/drjasonselk303/

https://community.thriveglobal.com/how-to-retrain-your-brain-to-overcome-stress/

http://www.experimentswithsuccess.com/2014/11/self-confidence-number-one-variable-impacting-performance/

https://www.youngupstarts.com/2016/01/11/7-tips-to-beat-the-obstacles-in-your-head-and-create-winning-habits/

Jason - List 3

https://www.architechsports.com/blog/2021/10/20/problem-focused-or-solution-focused-your-choice

https://bigthink.com/personal-growth/losing-your-competitive-edge-how-mental-laziness-can-hurt-you/

https://www.staceybarr.com/measure-up/underperformance-needs-a-relentless-solution-focus/

Viable Excuse - https://twitter.com/jason_selk/status/1501306594528739328

https://www.themuse.com/advice/the-so-sorry-i-messed-up-apology-that-actually-works

[Accountability] http://workawesome.com/productivity/accountable/#more-16211

https://medium.com/@martin.soorjoo/dr-jason-selk-how-to-develop-mental-toughness-and-achieve-your-goals-34be4bf8a56

Goal Setting- 

https://www.goalsontrack.com/blog/2012/05/29/goal-setting-tips-from-a-world-series-champion/

https://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/careers/leadership-lab/six-steps-to-a-perfect-schedule-seriously/article16210837/

Performance Statement - 

https://www.dailyathlete.ca/performancestatement/

Interview

https://blogcritics.org/interview-jason-selk-author-of-organize-tomorrow-today-8-ways-to-retrain-your-mind-to-optimize-performance/

https://dwightstewartrm.com/performance-statement-how-to-improve-yours/

5 Best Practice for mental toughness

https://drchristinavillarreal.com/category/empowerment/

Underperformance needs a RSF

https://www.staceybarr.com/measure-up/underperformance-needs-a-relentless-solution-focus/

Podcast

https://thehighperformancemindset.com/developing-mental-toughness-in-sport-business-and-life-with-dr-jason-selk-bestselling-author-speaker-coach

https://www.marshbuice.com/713-practice-simplicity-with-constant-repetition-the-quickest-way-to-developing-mental-toughness-with-dr-jason-selk/

 

Book Summary

https://bestbookbits.com/10-minute-toughness-the-mental-training-program-for-winning-before-the-game-begins-by-jason-selk/

obsession for improvement (What 1 thing I could have done better today and do better tomorrow/ improvement for tomorrow)

Attack Mentality (Doing strongly with focus) - Victim Mentality (giving excuses, complaining, blaming, worrying)

Being Proactive (Plan the day before, long term goal short term goal)

Fight thru - Feeling NOT to do the things that needs to be done, How Good I will feel if I win this ?  What would happen if you lose by not doing ? ex: poor result, gaining weight, losing respect

Be little tough (in making decisions, facing challenges, sticking without giving up)

Don't overcoach, Don't try to change too many things at same time

small and frequent repitition (Simplicity with constant repitition)

Hapiness causes more success

win or lose the day.. what you do every day is important

Consistency of Prioritized Activity (Personal and Professional)

No Excuse - What is the one thing you want to accomplish that you need to stop making excuses about? 

Reward: Set a reward in motion (short term, long term - having more money)